Elements Naturally Complementing Spanking
My spanking sessions will sometimes include many different activities that deepen the lesson or experience, but I only include these elements if they fit in naturally. Activities like those listed below are always discussed and agreed upon beforehand with the spankee. Some of these activities are included simply because the spankee and I enjoy them; there does not always need to be a specific reason to include them beyond the intensity they bring to the session.
Corner time — A simple period of time, usually lasting five to ten minutes, for the spankee to reflect on why they are being spanked. This may be done in silence or with lecture, and it can take place before, during, or after spanking, sometimes all three.
Corner time may involve kneeling or standing, with hands behind the spankee’s back, on top of their head, or holding a spanking implement behind their back.
Sometimes their nose is pressed into the corner with their bottom sticking out, other times the posture is upright to practice standing properly. If the spankee struggles with fidgeting, they may be made to face a wall instead of the corner while holding a coin or a sheet of paper against the wall with their nose. Dropping the object results in extra corner time and/or additional spanking.
When in the corner, the spankee must always remain silent unless asked a direct question. Talking back or speaking out of turn can easily result in extended corner time, a few reinforcement swats, or even a bar of soap as a reminder to hold their tongue.
Cross-dressing — Clothing brought by the spankee that is worn during the session to create a sense of vulnerability, or simply because they enjoy dressing up. Sometimes this involves a full outfit and other times just a single article of clothing.
Diaper play — This is only incorporated with the understanding that the diapers will never be used. In my sessions diaper play is strictly about humiliation and humbling the spankee, and at times this may include the use of powder.
Inspections — Ensuring the spankee, and especially their bottom, is properly presented and ready for discipline.
Lecture — A formal, structured talk outlining expectations, rules, and consequences, designed to press the weight of responsibility onto the spankee.
Scolding — A direct reprimand delivered in the moment. This carries a different tone than a lecture: more immediate, less formal, and often leaving the spankee feeling smaller.
Light face slapping — Quick, stinging reminders to focus or mind their place. If a spankee refuses to open their mouth for mouth soaping, a few slaps will quickly encourage cooperation.
Mouth soaping — An old fashioned consequence for bad language, talking back, or breaking bad habits, with a lingering aftertaste.
Line writing — A repetitive written task to reinforce a specific lesson. This is sometimes combined with the use of the naughty mat, or with strokes delivered after each line is written.
Naughty mat punishment — Ordered to sit on a natural fiber mat, which is far more painful than most expect. Sometimes this comes before spanking, sometimes after, but either way it is humbling and memorable.
Kneeling on rice — A harsh punishment that forces the spankee to hold position while kneeling on small piles of rice. I am, of course, not opposed to delivering a few swats to an uncooperative spankee while they are kneeling.
Wet bottom spankings — Spanking applied when the skin is wet, which greatly heightens the sting and sensitivity. This is usually done in the shower or bath.
Hair pulling — A quick, corrective action used to reinforce authority. It is never a hard pull, only strong enough to get the spankee’s attention.
Ear pulling — A sharp reprimand, often used to lead or reposition a spankee. Particularly effective when guiding a spankee to the corner.
Spanking panties — Being put into special underwear designed for spanking to highlight the area to be punished and add ritual to the moment. I have written more about spanking panties here.
Assignments before and after sessions — Written tasks, reflection papers, or behavior tracking designed to extend discipline beyond the session itself. Assignments before a session prepare the spankee mentally and set the tone, while assignments afterwards reinforce what was learned and provide accountability.
Behavior reports — Sometimes a spankee is sent to me with a note from their spouse or partner detailing their bad behavior. This adds an extra layer of accountability, since the spanking or punishment is connected directly to real life conduct. An apology letter to their spouse or partner may be written under my supervision while they sit on their sore bottom, often on the naughty mat. A spouse or partner may also request audio or photos from the session, which is perfectly acceptable. Video, however, is not.
