“I want us to be friends so that you will spank me.”
It is very frustrating to me that spankees outside of my NaturallyGin sessions are always trying to become my friend just so I’ll spank them. I’ve actually had people say, “I want us to be friends so that you will spank me.”
What they’re really saying is: “I see your value only in what you can do for me.”
In my personal life, it’s almost always the same story. They don’t care about me as a person. They only see me as a spanker, as a Top. And within that narrow view, I’m not allowed to be goofy, or overwhelmed, or sad, because that apparently ruins the rigid idea in their heads of what a spanker should be.
But it should be understood: this has nothing to do with my work as NaturallyGin. In those sessions, the structure, consent and mutual understanding are very clear. This is about my personal relationships, where I often feel used.
Spankers actually do get tired. For me, it’s more mental than physical, but it does happen. We also have feelings. This shouldn’t be a surprise. And yes, we feel hurt when we’re treated like tools instead of people.
So stop pretending to be my friend just to get spanked. I don’t like it.
