Contacting Me: The Right Way (and the Wrong Way)
This is part of my Behind the Paddle: About Gin & Her Sessions series. It includes practical guidance on how to contact me and what information to share for anyone genuinely interested in a spanking session.
How to Request a Spanking Session and Questions to Answer (if you need to know where to start)
Send a respectful message stating the type of spanking session you are seeking. You may include preferences, boundaries, or particular activities within spanking play that you enjoy. Making a positive first impression is crucial; otherwise, you will not be considered.
If you want to be a very good spankee and are requesting an in-person session, answer my standard seven questions in your initial email:
What is your age?
When was the last time you engaged in spanking play?
When did you first become interested in spanking?
Are you okay with marks and/or bruises?
Do you have any medical or emotional concerns I should be aware of?
No sexual activity is permitted before, during, or after the spanking session. I am a disciplinarian and provide only safe, consensual spanking play between adults. Do you fully understand and accept this?
Is there any additional information you’d like to share that feels important or could be helpful to know for our potential meeting?
If you are requesting a virtual spanking session, you are welcome to answer these questions in your initial email:
Have you ever participated in virtual play before?
When did your interest in spanking begin?
Are you comfortable with self spanking that may leave marks and/or bruises?
Do you have any medical or emotional concerns I should be aware of?
I am a disciplinarian and provide safe, consensual spanking sessions between adults, strictly within a non-sexual virtual context. Do you fully understand and agree to this?
Is there any additional information you’d like to share that feels important or could be helpful to know for our potential meeting?
What area of the world are you located in, for timing and scheduling purposes?
If you are requesting a talk only session, focused solely on discussions about spanking and the community associated with it, please specify that clearly in your email. The questions listed above are not necessary to answer for a talk only session, but you are welcome to share any topics, curiosities, or areas of interest you wish to discuss to ensure it aligns with what I offer.
A Side Note to Copycats
People started copying my standard questions and style years ago in a lazy attempt to imitate my process, but these questions are only one part of a structure I have developed over time. Without the experience, thought, and discipline behind them, they are nothing more than an empty framework. Copying me and my words does not make you capable of doing what I do.
Response Time
I make it my goal to respond to emails within 48 hours. While I aim to meet this timeframe, there are occasions when this isn’t possible. I appreciate your patience and understanding if a reply takes a little longer.
Respect My Time
Respecting my time is just as important as respecting my boundaries. How do you know if you are wasting my time? Let me give you an example. One person requested two sessions, canceled both at the last minute, and we exchanged nearly forty emails in the process. When I ended communication because of this, their response was:
“How much time did you spend corresponding with me? Five minutes or less? Gimme a break!”
The truth is I devote significant time and energy to correspondence and scheduling. Spanking is not casual for me; as a lifelong spanko, I take it very seriously. Dismissing that effort is disrespectful. I did not give this person a break, and I will not give you one either if you waste my time.
Email Is the Only Way
Unless we are engaged in daily accountability within a structured virtual session schedule that includes text messages, the only way to contact me is through email: NaturallyGin@gmail.com.
You may message me on social media, but I likely will not respond. Scheduling only happens through email. If you cannot follow this, you are not ready to interact with me.
A Note to Nervous Beginners
I know that for some, sending the first email can feel daunting. Many spankos spend years thinking about spanking before finally reaching out. If this is you, the important thing is simply to write, open up, introduce yourself, and be honest. Taking that step shows me you are serious and ready to begin.
Language Is Not a Barrier
If English is not your first language, do not worry. I do not expect flawless grammar. What matters is clarity, honesty, and respect. If you can express yourself politely, that is enough.
I Am Not Your Travel Planner
Spankos often ask me where to stay, what to see, or what to eat in Utrecht. I am not a tour guide. My focus is on spanking sessions, not vacation advice. The only time this kind of question even remotely makes sense is if you are booking an all day session or a weekend long session with me, where logistics may naturally overlap with planning.
No Sexual Services
I do not provide sexual services before, during, or after spanking sessions. I am a disciplinarian, and I provide only safe, consensual play between adults. Any request for sexual activity will end our correspondence. If you are looking for sex, you are in the wrong place.
Attempts to disguise or redefine sexual activity will not be tolerated. For example, I once had a man argue that masturbation was not sexual. Such behavior is disrespectful and disingenuous, and it ends communication immediately.
